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Home is the first environment a child is exposed to socially and it is home where the child spends maximum time of his early years around his/her family. It is a great opportunity to utilize this environment to maximize the learning of a toddler. To do the same, it is important that we as parents and people around us who are involved in raising the child are actively adopting the behavioral alterations required to suit the learning of the child.Some of the easy to do and important ones are –
1.Improving the listening and responding skills – Toddlers have a habit of asking never ending questions, sometimes they repeatedly keep asking silly questions. There is no end to the whats, whys and hows but then, it is only natural for us to get irritated. The key to alter this behavior is obviously patience; if you consistently encourage the curiosity and raise the interest level of the child it will have many long term benefits. The child grows up to constantly seek new things in life, explore and experiment with changes. If we do it in an early age, it will continue in the long run.
2. Reading Habit – We all know reading is a great habit but it is a habit which cannot be inculcated in a child by preaching. This is something which can only be done by leading through example. There are two ways to do this – reading yourself and being an example to the child or reading the book aloud to the child every night through bedtime stories or any other means. This comes for my personal experience – whenever I read a book, V also has the excitement to hold a book and pretend to read. In fact this is how kids transition from pretending to read to actually start reading.
3. Declutter – Like most other parents, I am also guilty of getting too many toys and games for my daughter. Kids are spoilt for choice and eventually start to devalue things. Research also proves a child’s learning is maximized when it is uncluttered and organised. Prioritizing and organizing skills can really be imbibed in the early years. Time capping for certain games is also a great idea where you only give one set of toys for a particular period of time. Involve the child in the de-cluttering process and let him/her choose the next set.
4. Demonstration – It is always a great idea to ask kids to assist you to do things. Household chores or outdoor tasks, working as a team always helps raise a more responsible child. The activity is also perceived as fun activity by them and not a task.
5. Let them try – Unless it is a big hazard, let the kids try to do things independently. Parental supervision is good but instilling the confidence in the child really means a lot. I have seen the such kids to grow up as very confident and fearless individuals.
As many of you would have seen the toddler parenting series that I am doing on my IGTV channel on Instagram,this is the second topic we are talking about after “How to decide on a good preschool for your child”. To watch the video, please follow missvogueviolet .There are many parents who decide against sending their child to school even before they turn 3 but for most working parents, this seems to be a good option.
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Some of the reasons why we decided to send V to preschool are –
1.Social Skills – We thought that if V is surrounded by kids her age and has a structured school environment, she will develop her social skills better. I can vouch for this now as I see she has developed a positive acceptance to people around her after a couple of weeks spent in school.
2. Energy Channelization – Like most toddlers, V is always beaming with energy which needs to be used in a productive way. At home,while we try our best to engage her in whatever possible way we can, school definitely provides numerous positive ways to use the energy.
3. Balance for working parents -Off late, I had been finding it really hard to focus on my professional priorities because of the endless tasks at home.So the couple of hours off in the morning with V gone to school, I definitely am able to plan my day better and work more efficiently.
4. Learning through playing – It is always better when there are trained professionals who know best how to make learning fun and therefore, a good preschool is definitely important.
Now coming to the most important point of discussion which is readiness of the child to go to the playschool, there are a few things that I looked at before taking the final decision.
- Communication – While it is impossible for a toddler to clearly communicate all of his/her emotions properly,he/she should be able to ask for basic things and express the displeasure whenever needed. This helps to ensure that he/she is understood in his school and any kind of discomfort can be dealt with immediately.
- Curiosity – Every child is curious but curiosity should be higher than the fear of being unfamiliar. If the child is very uncomfortable to new environments, maybe you could wait for a few more months. If the child is fairly receptive to new things in life, it is a good time to go to play school.
- Love to socialize – There are many kids who love to socialize yet cry every single day while going to school. If your child longs to spend time with other kids, enjoys play dates and shows some interest towards team work I think they are the first signs of readiness for play school.
- Follow Simple Instructions – The child should be able to understand and comprehend what the teacher and other staff are saying. He/she may not be competent to obey and execute every single instruction but should show some signs of reception.
- Positive Attitude and health – A school could be a breeding ground for air borne and water borne diseases. You are exposing your child to a lot of other people who could be sick and if your child is prone to infections, you could wait for a few months till his/her immunity develops.
These are the few key points you could use as a reference to check if the child is ready for school or not.
Once you are a mom, life throws you new challenges in every stage. Just when the sleepless nights are coming to an end, you got to make way for tough decisions 😀 Lately we have been doing a lot of research on preschools in order to finalize the best one for our little one. In the process there are a few realizations we had and therefore, I have listed down the important ones to keep in mind when you are looking for the best preschool for your child.
The next few things that you read shall help you make a conscious decision on selecting a preschool for your child –
- Match between the thought process of the parents and culture of the school: Every parent has a different set of expectations from the school. There are many parents who feel that a school must give a lot of importance on academics and theoretical method of learning because they benefited from it in their childhood. At the same time there would be parents who would be looking for more playtime for the children and a good platform to channelize their energy in the positive direction. So based on these expectations, you could check on which school has to offer what.
- Infrastructure:Most good preschools do have great infrastructure these days but our priority was a school with a larger out door play area because we strongly believe in outdoor playtime. Similarly, I am sure parents would be having some specific requirements on the amenities the school provides basis which they can take a call on the same.
- Hygiene: It is the most important factor to decide anything for your child. Irrespective of what the school authorities say, it is always better to personally go and do a check.
- Proximity : If you find a very impressive school far from your home and you do not have good options around your house, you can still take a conscious call of sending the child away. We thought it is the first time V was going to step out of home and spend 3 hours with a set of unfamiliar faces and hence decided on a playschool pretty close to our home/workplace. The idea was to be immediately available for any kind of emergency.
- Language : Since V was confined to the home until now and we speak the regional language at home; she was exposed to only 2 languages – English and Odia. Therefore we thought it is important that we send her to a school where the staff can speak these 2 languages and not just Hindi which V cannot understand. Basically we tried to pull in as many strings as possible to make her feel comfortable in an unfamiliar environment so that there is no problem in basic communication between her and people around.
So here are the few factors that helped us decide on the best play school for our child. I hope these help you in some way. The next post shall be on how to check the readiness of your toddler for preschool.
The greatest feature of a kurti is its versatility. It can be worn to almost every occasion. Be it a casual gathering or a formal party, kurti can make its way through to all such events.
While pairing a kurti is almost hassle free since it goes with patialas, loose pallazos, leggings, jeans etc; I tried creating a look with this flared skirt. The kurti is from one of my favorite online shopping websites Wishalley.com ; made of the softest crepe fabric and the perfect combination of subtle colors just suiting my taste.
Crepe fabric is anyway known for its varied appeal and when you get the finest crepe kurtis at affordable prices, you can only thank your stars. I loaded the look with lot of silver jewellery and went for a light makeup.
The second kurti is a combination of peach and coral bringing in both soft and bright touch to it. While most of us like being fashionable without being in a straitened situation, very few of us actually manage to be chic without burning a hole in our pocket. Thanks to wishalley.com who offers the best options in an economic range. Whether the occasion is grand or not, the wise combination of colors in this attire makes it perfect for any event. I have teamed it with a bright orange pallazo and an orange dupatta which makes it appropriate for a formal occasion as well. For a more dramatic look, you can go for traditional hand accessories and an Indian choker. Thanks to the versatility of kurtis, you can add your flavor as per your personal style and enjoy sporting different looks.
If you feel the tranquilizing vibes of kurtis and want to breathe new life into your wardrobe; it is time to head to wishalley.com and pick some from the amazing collection.
Motherhood is the most beautiful feeling in the world – We have heard of this since ages, haven’t we? Even when you google maternity shoot pictures, you get photographs of beautiful women(with no dark circles) in white flowy dresses posing with absolutely quiet and angelic babies. This is the image which was stuck in my mind till reality hit me hard right after Little Miss V was born.
- Guilt is your middle name : I haven’t met a new mom yet who hasn’t felt this way. We are racked with guilt when our work commitment prevents us from spending enough time with our little ones. We associate almost everything in our lives with the way we are raising our kids. On most occasions, even the best doesn’t seem to be good enough. We always find faults with ourselves and when we don’t, people around us help us find few.
- Hormone dance is for real : When we were counting days to our pregnancy acne to end and sore legs to be back to normal, our hormones had different plans for us. The hormonal balance throws most of us off the track right after the baby is born. The mood swings, depressing thoughts and baby blues start to get worse and just when we hit the 3 month mark and start to get better sleep, we start to lose chunks of hair. Ever wondered, why is it just us women who get to go through all of it?
- Time moves incoherently: When we are away from our kids, the clock stops ticking and when we are with our kids, the whole weekend passes away in the blink of an eye. No amount of planning and prioritizing can get us close to being perfect time managers when it comes to spending enough time with our babies. We constantly feel that there are never enough hours in the day to get everything done and Monday blues get worse. The struggle is real.
- Stop shopping for yourself: Shopping was fun once upon a time. Remember, how window shopping and even scrolling through online shopping sites felt therapeutic. These days, we just pass through the apparel section and land straight in the baby care section. Baby dresses look way more alluring than the Little Black Dresses we wore all our lives (fitting into it or not is still a question though).
- Bye – bye to sleep : Honestly, this does not deserve to be on Point number 5. Sleep was my first and foremost priority for the longest period of time. There were enough number of articles to support my argument of direct correlation between sleep and a healthy life. Unfortunately, the dream shattered for me soon after V arrived in our lives. I lived like a zombie for months with a little less than 2 hours of sleep every night. I kept patiently waiting for that magical age when she would start sleeping through the night but each time she did, she made the following nights worse.
- Get used to a messy house : Until now,we thought leaving the wet towel on the bed and the shoes on the floor was called a mess. Say hello to the new idea of mess after having a baby.Kids and clutter go together like glitter and glue and we just cannot do anything about it. So, we have to make peace with a messy house. Good news is studies say, messy houses raise immuned, strong and independent children.
- All the parenting strategies go for a toss – Remember the last time we saw a wailing baby in the flight and gave the mother a frosty stare? Or the last time we saw a mom handing over a bag of chips to her kid while we smirked and wondered how she could be raising her child with junk eating habits? Well, now the whole universe is conspiring against us – it is all coming back, one after the other. The biggest thing I learnt as a mother is to “NOT” judge another mother. Everyone has a different way of parenting and sometimes we just give in to the whims and fancies of our child for the sake of peace of our minds. It is ok, everything is not going to be perfect all the time, it need not be.
These were the top 7 shocks motherhood gave me but the reasons to the joy of motherhood are infinite. I will be happy to know more about what shocks did my readers get post motherhood?