FOTD:VICTORIAN LOOK

Dressing in vintage style clothing for a themed event or personal fashion is always a fun thing to do. While the authentic Victorian look necessitates a full skirted dress and a corset fitted blouse, it is hard to carry it off unless the theme of the party itself is Victorian(After who wants to wear a women’s civil war dress). So, I styled it a little differently with the hairstyle and makeup going back to the 19th Century and wearing a gown which has enough flair and volume to make it look Victorian.

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On the face :

Benefit Concealer Boing Brigtening Concealer

MAC Studio Fix Foundation in NC 25

Bobbi Brown Illuminating Powder in Porcelain

The Balm The Manizer Sisters(Highlighter, Blush and Bronzer)

On the eyes :

Huda Beauty Desert Dusk Eye shadow Palette

Mimoso Eye mascara

Huda Beauty Lashes in Lana

Benefit Big Brows set

On the lips – Huda Beauty Liquid Lipstick in shade Trophy Wife

Outfit – Frontier Raas, Delhi

It was so much fun to style this outfit, wore it to a Cocktail!After all, there are so many ways to spice up this boring life 😀

DEALING WITH SEPARATION ANXIETY

As a working mom, dealing with V’s separation anxiety has been tough for me. Although I am well aware that it only speaks of an attachment and is a completely normal behavior, my heart breaks each time she cries her lungs out while I leave. With time, I learnt a few tricks and tips for surviving this anxiety. It demands preparation, brisk transitions and a lot of time. The fact is we parents suffer as much as our children do when we leave. The first time I stepped out for an overnight work trip without V, I kept mourning the parting whole night. While the next day I tried to keep myself as busy as I can to avoid the guilt and thoughts about her, I realized I will have to consciously work towards make it easier for both of us. And months down the line, after a lot of effort I could successfully stay away for a week last month. Here are few tips that worked for me and worth giving a try –

  1. Familiarity: Familiarity always breeds comfort. Sometimes, it gets difficult for adults to adjust to unfamiliar situations, leave alone the little ones who consider their parents to be their whole world. It is very important to keep one familiar person constant, be it one of the grandparents or a caregiver. It is inevitable that your absence is bound to make a difference in the mood of the baby, but good news is babies forget everything too soon if they are comfortable with the surrounding. So, if there is a routine around a constant person, it makes things easier. Also, keeping security objects close to the baby (any favorite toy, blanket etc) makes them feel secured.
  2. Reassurance : As a practice, I have played the game of “Peekaboo” with V right since she started being cognizant of her surroundings. The whole idea behind it was to reinforce the idea that even if she cannot see me for a while, she would know that I will be back. Also, when I am home and my husband is in office, I make video calls to him and let V interact with him(although she would any way get to see him in the evening) so that when I do the same while I am away on work trips, she doesn’t long for me and wouldn’t cry during the video calls.
  1. Good bye Rituals: Good byes should be kept short and sweet. If you linger , the transition time will linger too and make things more difficult eventually. As a practice, I try to keep my departure at the same time every day. So, we follow a ritual of her bidding me goodbye at the door and then she heads out straight to the bath. Gradually, she has realized that there is something to look forward to after Mommy is off to work.
  2. Keeping promises: We all feel heartbroken when promises are not kept, don’t we? These little darlings are no different and rather more vulnerable. So, whenever you promise that you will be back by 6 pm, try to keep it. If you promise to come back with a toy, then do it. This mostly makes a difference to toddlers because they understand what you say and actually look forward to your commitments. Keeping promises helps build trust and credibility with your child.
  3. Customized approach: Every child is different. What works for my baby may not work for you and therefore, you need to keep trying until you are successful. Lot of people insist on letting the baby sleep in a different room in order to build a sense of independence. It never worked with me and I never had the courage to let her be out of my sight through the night but if it does for you, go for it. I have believed in attachment parenting and I always ensure someone is around her at all times until she maybe learns to speak for herself.
  4. Practice distance: Even when you are home, try and practice staying apart while the baby engages in fun activities. I typically like to send her for playdates with other toddlers (of course under supervision of adults) or leave her with grandparents for an hour or so. This helps in adaptability with new faces and gradually they learn to enjoy some time off familiar faces.
  5. Do not impose the concept of “No crying” – According to me, crying is not a negative trait by any means. It is just a way of expressing an emotion and babies have every right to express their displeasure regarding something, The ability to be aware and express the feelings itself is a major milestone and an important emotional foundation. While, we mothers can’t stop feeling guilty about it, babies outgrow this feeling very soon(unless the baby is sick or has any other problem). So, next time the baby cries when you are stepping out, give her a tighter hug and say ‘goodbye’. She will be fine with the care giver, trust me. Just make sure she is comfortable with the care giver on normal days.

While I am no child psychiatrist, I can say that most of these things worked for me and the suggestion are purely based on personal experiences.

ONE SHOULDER FORMAL YET CASUAL

The one shoulder trend is at its peak.Most of the online shopping websites are flooded with varied options of one shoulder tops and dresses. I picked up this satin olive green one shoulder blouse and carried it to one of my holidays. I always thought I could only wear it to a formal party with a pencil skirt and high heels but guess what!I finally wore it to a day long excursion with my all time favorite ONLY skinny black pants and Silver Laceup Cupsole Trainers from KOOVS!Here are few pictures from this look –

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We had an open Jacuzzi with a plain white background in our hotel at Ho Chi Minh, Vietnam and it was just perfect for the shoot 🙂

On the face :

Bobbi Brown BB Cream

Bobbi Brown Illuminating Powder in Porcelain

On the eyes:

Benefit They’re Real Eyeliner

Bausch & Lomb Eye Contact Lens in Green

Mimoso Eye Mascara

On the lips:

MAC Lipstick in Twig

 

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I have such fond memories of this trip and this was the last day at Ho Chi Minh. A day long outing which ended up with a lot of shopping.

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Hope you enjoyed the pictures!I can’t wait to pair this with something really abstract and experiment yet again!

Retro dressing for Indian Wedding

Winters are almost fading out and spring is just around the corner but do you know which is my favorite season? Just like thousands of other women, I enjoy wedding season the most. No matter how cheesy that may sound, trust me we wait for the season of celebration, rejoicing and most importantly, dressing up. While most wedding parties do not particularly have a theme to follow, I would like to share a few pictures from the Retro look I created few days back.

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Makeup :

On the Face:

Make Up Forever Ultra HD Foundation in Beige

MAC Strobe Cream as highlighter

MAC Petal Power as blush

MAC Mineralise Skin Finish Natural

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On the eyes :

Urban Decay Eye Primer Potion

Huda Beauty Desert Dusk Eye Palette

Eden on the lids, Desert sand towards the inner corners

Saffron on the outer corners and on the crease

Cosmo on the lids

Angelic in the inner lids

Chambor Eyeliner in Peacock Blue on the waterline

NYX Purple eye liner under the lower lashline

Benefit They’re Real Mascara

Huda Eye Lashes in Claudia

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On the lips :

Huda Beauty Liquid Lipstick in Trophy Wife

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Lehenga : Nivedita Saboo (This lehenga with a perfect fitted corset blouse is 7 years old which I had got done for my cousin’s wedding – Very light to carry and something that I would probably never do away with. I am just so glad I still fit into it)

 

For the perfect Retro look, I obviously created a generous amount of puff and bounce in the hair. I hope you would like to recreate this one!

 

 

PAKISTANI SUIT WITH WISHALLEY.COM

We all keep looking for that perfect Indian wear, don’t we? And Salwar suits never go out of fashion. Pakistani suits have taken center stage for most fashion shows lately and no wonder, the trend has been quite a hit. They have a regal, graceful look, with flowing silhouettes, intricate designs and artistic patterns being quite a norm. They come with a long kurta with full sleeves, straight bottoms or loose pallazos and a flowy dupatta.

Personally, I am a sucker for pastels. I always have been and when I saw this perfect combination of pastel pink and green, I couldn’t wait to lay my hands on them. The fabric is a breathable Georgette with ample golden and pink embroidery making it look no less than a designer outfit.

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To shop this look, please click on the link below –

http://www.wishalley.com/designer-light-green-and-blush-pink-georgette-suit-with-heavy-embroidery.html

I wanted to create an aesthetically pleasing ensemble and hence, paired this dress with silver and dull gold jewelry.

Details below –

Silver earrings from Tribe by Amrapali

Statement Silver Ring – Local shop in Langkawi

Dull gold Bracelet – Tanishq

You could easily pair it with a maangtika and wear it to a Sangeet or just keep it simple to a casual party. This is the beauty of a Pakistani suit – very high on comfort and wearable on all occasions.I could hold  the suit all day with absolutely no discomfort.

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WishAlley has a wide range of options to offer – from solids to prints and they swear by the statement –‘classy is always in’. You can pick from a mix of stitched and unstitched garments and with the ease of online shopping, you can actually browse through the collection and pick something for every occasion (weddings to kitty parties). The products are shipped within 3 days and you get the option of Cash on Delivery as well. High time to log on to www.wishalley.com and revamp your closet from a range of designer kaftaans,kurtis, dressy suits to add a dash of style to your persona, all at a reasonable price! They have very satisfied customers who have rated them 4.8/5!

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Learning from Homestay Hosts!

‘Atithi Devo Bhava’ is an ancient line that comes from the Hindu Scriptures which speaks about how a guest is equivalent to God. While this is practiced widely in India, we got to experience the flavor of it in our Paris Trip where we decided to stay with the host family through a popular home stay website. While the option is far more economic compared to a hotel stay, the experience is unmatched. In most occasions, you will find the hosts being extremely enthusiastic about letting out their place. They won’t behave like they are just temporary landlords who are handing over their keys to you. They are in the true spirit, cultural ambassadors proud of the place they’re from, sharing their homes and offering a unique experience in the city you have come visiting. We as a couple had a ball in not just Paris but different cities of UK and Europe staying in various apartments where we met extremely generous and fun loving hosts. We have been picking up our learning from each of the experiences.Here are few pictures from the home stay at Paris.

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Let me just share my top 7 points on being a good host and why you should consider hosting your space to guests –

  1. How to be accepting – No matter how different your cultures and languages might be, there is always something common to strike a chord with and this is a great platform to explore that. Similarly, you also learn to respect each others’ differences, either way it is a great way to improve the quality of accepting people around you.
  2. How to respect individual space – When you are letting out your house to strangers, you have to place hundred percent trust on them and it is not easy. So, that itself is a huge task to complete before you step out to become a host. As guests in our homestays, we felt completely at home particularly in the magnificent modern apartment of Paris only for the reason that the hosts gave us our space all through the day yet made sure to join us during the meals as one big family.
  3. How to be a cultural ambassador – As hosts, you can be an instant favorite if you give useful recommendations like the local pubs, the nearby restaurants, the must see places and the ones that can be skipped, the opera, the theatre and the list goes on. Funnily, it improves your knowledge of the culture of your locale.Hence, it is always wise to write to the guest beforehand and understand their interest and purpose of travel.
  4. How to exchange values – Hosting guests provides you with the opportunity to learn about a new country’s cultural and family values as much as it provides them with the same opportunity. Understanding other’s cultures teaches you to understand more about people’s personalities and attitudes towards many different aspects of life.
  5. How to make awesome food – I know it sounds funny but I have heard people say that some of the best foods they have had in their lives are with the host families they have stayed with. In our experience, the hosts would leave a generous spread of breakfast at the table every morning but they loved to cook food for supper every evening. We took this opportunity to introduce few Indian dishes to them and they absolutely loved it(minus the spices). Interestingly, one of them was Spanish, so it was a brilliant concoction of Indian, French and Spanish food that we had every evening.
  6. How to build professional network – Foreign language is a great plus for your resume if you are ready to take up an international assignment, this is a wonderful opportunity to grow your professional network .
  7. How to be passionate about simple joys of life – Hosting is possibly the most natural thing that comes to human beings, after all you must have hosted someone at some point of life – be it friends or family. Hosting a stranger can be a really rewarding experience if you leverage on this unique opportunity of making a new friend, getting to know about a new culture and possibly open a channel to your next travel to the guest’s city.

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Picture from a busy locale just outside the apartment, from fruits to flowers to pubs – everything a stone’s throw away!

The next time you think about letting out your space to a stranger, think from a positive perspective!

Happy Hosting!

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Atithi devo bhava is an ancient line from the Hindu Scriptures which speaks about how a guest is equivalent to God.While this is practised widely in India,we got to experience this amazing hospitality at Marc and Xavier's place in Paris. My top 3 learnings on being a good host comes from these gentlemen- 1.How to be accepting-No matter how different our cultures and languages might be,there is always something common to strike a chord with. 2.How to give space- When you are letting out your house to strangers,you have to place hundred percent trust on them.We felt absolutely at home in this magnificent house only because they gave us our space yet joined us for meals as one big family. 3.Being a good guide – As hosts, you can be instant friends when you give useful recommendations like the local pubs,the nearby restaurants,the opera,the theatre and the list goes on.Read full story on #vogueviolet-link in bio👆 Have you ever experienced such an amazing hospitality from strangers that you can't forget the hosts? #airbnb #homestay

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FOTD: Green Eyes with all things subtle!

I have been wanting to do this post for a really long time.I had worked on this look very diligently but I could not take the pictures in time(Thanks to the tight mommy schedule).So I recreated it again in my recent holiday at Vietnam. Honestly, I am not very comfortable with colored lens for the simple reason that I have never had to wear spectacles or contact lens ever in my life. So the feeling of having a foreign object in my eyes constantly bothers me.However, the kind of instant glamour a colored lens adds to the look just blows my mind away. So, I kind of brave the odds each time for that glamorous look 😀 Here are few pictures of the look – AirBrush_20180125162612AirBrush_20180125185222

On the face :

Bobbi Brown BB Cream in Shade Fair

Bobbi Brown Brightening Finishing Powder in Porcelain

MAC Mineralise Finish in Lightscapade – Soft Candlelight Beige in Multidimensional Shimmer

Too Faced Sweet Hearts Perfect Flush Blush – Something About Berry

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On the eyes –

Mac Burgundy Times Nine Eyeshadow palette –

Poppyseed in the inner corner

Haux on the lids

Noir in the outer corner and crease

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MAC Prolongwear Fluidline in Dip Down on the upper and lower lashline

On the eyelashes – Benefit They’re Real

Lens – Bausch and Lomb in Green

The below picture is just before I brushed off the glitter and did my final touch up!

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On the lips – NYX Soft Matte Cream in Rome

I had so much fun doing this one. I hope you do too , please share your recreations on the comments tab below or DM me on Instagram @missvogueviolet.

 

HOMESICK DURING VACATION?

So, I am writing this post in the middle of a holiday as I think of my darling little V who is having a ball of time back home. Generally, home is far from the top of my mind when I travel to a new place. I am always busy exploring and soaking in the experience yet I always look forward to going back when it is time to return.

A quote that I relate to –

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 I love coming home after being away. Do you feel the same way? Read on to find out 7 reason why –

  1. Family: Whatever said and done, there is no substitute to the warmth of a family and if you got fur babies, I know you just can’t wait to get back home and cuddle up.
  2. Comfort: I know all you fashionistas love to wear the best of clothes and shoot the best of pictures in vacations, but hey, secretly we all want to go back to our pajamas and slump in the couch, don’t we?
  3. Back on track: Yes, holidays are the time when all your new year resolutions, diet and workout goals go for a toss. So, coming back to home gets you back on track with clean eating and increased focus on health.
  4. Creativity: Sometimes you get so many fresh ideas in a holiday that you can’t wait for the surge of creativity to step out of you and implement them in your lives.
  5. Familiarity: When you are in a different country, after a certain period of time, you practically long to communicate in your own language, eat your home cooked food and feel your usual neighborhood.
  6. Routine: Yes, you went on a holiday to escape the usual but people like me long to get back to routine after a few days. A routine just makes life easy, you know exactly what you’re going to do next.
  7. Sleep: After an activity packed vacation and before you start going back to work, you would want to get some good sleep(and what better than your own bed). You can catch up on all the episodes loss of your favorite series. So, all you GOT fans, please don’t plan a vacation when Season 8 is aired!

Don’t get me wrong, I love vacations as much as you do but I also really do LOVE coming back home 🙂

 

Maternity and nursing style with Momzjoy.com!

Florals have been my favorite always. They bring in the feel of spring even on the gloomiest of the seasons. After living in neutrals all winter, I have been craving for some color and what better than this gorgeous blue with tiny tangerine flowers (just what would suit this kind of sunny winter brunch).

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This lovely maxi dress from www.momzjoy.com is ideal for a nursing mother (as it comes with concealed zips) or a mom-to-be who can use the detachable belt to flaunt that cute bump in style. The material is very soft crepe which lets your skin breathe in ease (just what you need at this time). Having said that, I think it is a wonderful maxi dress with side slits which can be worn even after pregnancy giving you a tall, elegant and confident look. Here are few more pictures of the look –

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Being a working mom myself, I know this would have been my top pick for dressing to work during maternity. I absolutely love the fluted sleeves and the linen fabric which gives a corporate touch to it. Extremely comfortable fit and front buttons make it ideal for a nursing mother. Generally, vertical stripes are to be avoided during pregnancy but the fall and fit of this dress makes you look effortlessly stylish!

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Momzjoy.com has a range of innovative designs that can be used during and after pregnancy. Go check out their collection at www.momzjoy.com and let me know in the comments section on how you style yourself with confidence!