FOTD:VICTORIAN LOOK

Dressing in vintage style clothing for a themed event or personal fashion is always a fun thing to do. While the authentic Victorian look necessitates a full skirted dress and a corset fitted blouse, it is hard to carry it off unless the theme of the party itself is Victorian(After who wants to wear a women’s civil war dress). So, I styled it a little differently with the hairstyle and makeup going back to the 19th Century and wearing a gown which has enough flair and volume to make it look Victorian.

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On the face :

Benefit Concealer Boing Brigtening Concealer

MAC Studio Fix Foundation in NC 25

Bobbi Brown Illuminating Powder in Porcelain

The Balm The Manizer Sisters(Highlighter, Blush and Bronzer)

On the eyes :

Huda Beauty Desert Dusk Eye shadow Palette

Mimoso Eye mascara

Huda Beauty Lashes in Lana

Benefit Big Brows set

On the lips – Huda Beauty Liquid Lipstick in shade Trophy Wife

Outfit – Frontier Raas, Delhi

It was so much fun to style this outfit, wore it to a Cocktail!After all, there are so many ways to spice up this boring life 😀

DEALING WITH SEPARATION ANXIETY

As a working mom, dealing with V’s separation anxiety has been tough for me. Although I am well aware that it only speaks of an attachment and is a completely normal behavior, my heart breaks each time she cries her lungs out while I leave. With time, I learnt a few tricks and tips for surviving this anxiety. It demands preparation, brisk transitions and a lot of time. The fact is we parents suffer as much as our children do when we leave. The first time I stepped out for an overnight work trip without V, I kept mourning the parting whole night. While the next day I tried to keep myself as busy as I can to avoid the guilt and thoughts about her, I realized I will have to consciously work towards make it easier for both of us. And months down the line, after a lot of effort I could successfully stay away for a week last month. Here are few tips that worked for me and worth giving a try –

  1. Familiarity: Familiarity always breeds comfort. Sometimes, it gets difficult for adults to adjust to unfamiliar situations, leave alone the little ones who consider their parents to be their whole world. It is very important to keep one familiar person constant, be it one of the grandparents or a caregiver. It is inevitable that your absence is bound to make a difference in the mood of the baby, but good news is babies forget everything too soon if they are comfortable with the surrounding. So, if there is a routine around a constant person, it makes things easier. Also, keeping security objects close to the baby (any favorite toy, blanket etc) makes them feel secured.
  2. Reassurance : As a practice, I have played the game of “Peekaboo” with V right since she started being cognizant of her surroundings. The whole idea behind it was to reinforce the idea that even if she cannot see me for a while, she would know that I will be back. Also, when I am home and my husband is in office, I make video calls to him and let V interact with him(although she would any way get to see him in the evening) so that when I do the same while I am away on work trips, she doesn’t long for me and wouldn’t cry during the video calls.
  1. Good bye Rituals: Good byes should be kept short and sweet. If you linger , the transition time will linger too and make things more difficult eventually. As a practice, I try to keep my departure at the same time every day. So, we follow a ritual of her bidding me goodbye at the door and then she heads out straight to the bath. Gradually, she has realized that there is something to look forward to after Mommy is off to work.
  2. Keeping promises: We all feel heartbroken when promises are not kept, don’t we? These little darlings are no different and rather more vulnerable. So, whenever you promise that you will be back by 6 pm, try to keep it. If you promise to come back with a toy, then do it. This mostly makes a difference to toddlers because they understand what you say and actually look forward to your commitments. Keeping promises helps build trust and credibility with your child.
  3. Customized approach: Every child is different. What works for my baby may not work for you and therefore, you need to keep trying until you are successful. Lot of people insist on letting the baby sleep in a different room in order to build a sense of independence. It never worked with me and I never had the courage to let her be out of my sight through the night but if it does for you, go for it. I have believed in attachment parenting and I always ensure someone is around her at all times until she maybe learns to speak for herself.
  4. Practice distance: Even when you are home, try and practice staying apart while the baby engages in fun activities. I typically like to send her for playdates with other toddlers (of course under supervision of adults) or leave her with grandparents for an hour or so. This helps in adaptability with new faces and gradually they learn to enjoy some time off familiar faces.
  5. Do not impose the concept of “No crying” – According to me, crying is not a negative trait by any means. It is just a way of expressing an emotion and babies have every right to express their displeasure regarding something, The ability to be aware and express the feelings itself is a major milestone and an important emotional foundation. While, we mothers can’t stop feeling guilty about it, babies outgrow this feeling very soon(unless the baby is sick or has any other problem). So, next time the baby cries when you are stepping out, give her a tighter hug and say ‘goodbye’. She will be fine with the care giver, trust me. Just make sure she is comfortable with the care giver on normal days.

While I am no child psychiatrist, I can say that most of these things worked for me and the suggestion are purely based on personal experiences.

BABYWEARING X SOULSLING

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Although baby wearing is an old concept, it has gained a significant momentum in the recent times as researchers have validated the benefits of this timeless practice. The studies have confirmed that our children’s social, physical and emotional development are all affected by human contact. Like many other mothers, I too have been told not to wear the baby often as it makes them clingy but if I go by my personal experience, I and V thoroughly enjoy the whole process. I cannot even begin to express how wonderful I feel when she falls asleep so close to my heart. After all, she is a piece of my heart beating outside of it.

Coming back to the benefits of baby wearing, let me list out the 3 most important ones which have helped me immensely in my motherhood journey –

Bonding and emotional security: The intimacy associated with the baby and mother/caregiver is multiplied exponentially with baby wearing and is directly proportional to the understanding and communication between the two. When you have a strong foundation, it leads to a healthier relationship in times to come. Holding the baby close comforts him/her, this has been a boon for colic babies as well. So, the next time someone tells you that you are spoiling the child by holding/picking him/her, think twice.

  1. Multitasking: They say being a mother is a job where you get no holidays. It is true, we get no breaks, no leaves and no time offs – so basically every other task needs to be completed along with managing pretty much everything related to the baby. With baby wearing, I was not just able to do the household chores but also travel conveniently with her wound around me. V was not too comfortable in the stroller when we went on a trip in her first few months but wearing her made both of us comfortable.

IMG_00483. Eco friendly option: The third less thought about benefit of baby wearing is it offers an option to cut down on the plastics used in strollers and chairs. People have been making their own baby carriers since ages but now, even in India we get ergonomic carriers in the best quality with the ease of online availability as well. My favorite one being Soul Slings!

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Having said this, I must emphasize on the fact that baby wearing is a good experience only if the baby is worn correctly. So, while choosing the baby carrier, there are certain conditions that you will have to keep in mind, few of them listed below –

  1. Ergonomic baby carriers – An ergonomic baby carriershould distribute the child’s weight evenly and comfortably for the wearer while giving good support to the child. The safety of the baby and the wearer is of prime importance, so it should give proper support to the baby and not inhibit the growth of spine in any way.
  2. Carrier suitable for the age – One carrier does not fit all ages and weights. A stretchy wrap is ideal for a new born as it takes the shape of the new born whereas a stronger structured one is more suitable for a toddler. Soulslings has a droolworthy collection of Onbuhimo, wraps, full buckle carriers and ring slings in the most amazing prints and soft breathable fabric.Here you can see me using the Standard Full Buckle Carrier from www.soulslings.com

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  1. Purpose of babywearing: It is important to firm the purpose of baby wearing and then choosing the carrier which best fits the position suitable for the purpose. So, if you want to nurse discreetly you would probably opt for a wrap, if you want to go hiking with the baby, you would probably opt for a full buckle which is ideal for back carries.

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I personally have had the best experience with www.soulslings.com, you should definitely go check out their collection.

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Look who has got my back!! I have been travelling a lot with V and it has been possible only because I decided to wear her weeks after she was born.Here,I am using the standard full buckle carrier from @soulslings_india one for the toddlers which is perfect for front and back carries.The best deal is it is perfect for fathers and other caregivers as well.When I started babywearing , I did not really have the best knowledge of how to evaluate a good baby carrier but now that I know,I thought I must list out 3 most important ones for you all- 1. Must go for ergonomic baby carriers as safety of the baby and the wearer is supreme. 2.One carrier doesn't fit all ages and weights-a stretchy wrap is ideal for a new born as it takes the shape of the spine while a stronger structured one is more suitable for a toddler. 3.Firm the purpose of babywearing (nursing discreetly,travelling,hiking etc) and accordingly choose the carrier which best fits the position suitable for the purpose. P.S : My Valentine V is having her morning chai on my back 🙂 #soulslings #soulslingsindia #vogueviolet

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ONE SHOULDER FORMAL YET CASUAL

The one shoulder trend is at its peak.Most of the online shopping websites are flooded with varied options of one shoulder tops and dresses. I picked up this satin olive green one shoulder blouse and carried it to one of my holidays. I always thought I could only wear it to a formal party with a pencil skirt and high heels but guess what!I finally wore it to a day long excursion with my all time favorite ONLY skinny black pants and Silver Laceup Cupsole Trainers from KOOVS!Here are few pictures from this look –

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We had an open Jacuzzi with a plain white background in our hotel at Ho Chi Minh, Vietnam and it was just perfect for the shoot 🙂

On the face :

Bobbi Brown BB Cream

Bobbi Brown Illuminating Powder in Porcelain

On the eyes:

Benefit They’re Real Eyeliner

Bausch & Lomb Eye Contact Lens in Green

Mimoso Eye Mascara

On the lips:

MAC Lipstick in Twig

 

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I have such fond memories of this trip and this was the last day at Ho Chi Minh. A day long outing which ended up with a lot of shopping.

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Hope you enjoyed the pictures!I can’t wait to pair this with something really abstract and experiment yet again!

DOES BEING A MOMMY MAKE YOU MORE EMPLOYABLE?

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We have heard enough of how motherhood is a big hindrance to the quintessential career woman. Well, to think of it, it is undoubtedly a very big challenge to manage a flourishing career with a baby yet being a mother actually necessitates a whole barrage of highly employable skills and competencies which can only benefit a career woman.

While we may not consciously acknowledge or recognize the ways we have up skilled ourselves, I think it is very important that the same should be broadcasted to the world. Who knows our potential future employers might be able to identify with our skill set better after reading this!  I am going to write on 7 most important skills that we develop as mothers that actually give us an edge over our colleagues at the workplace.

  1. Time Management: Yes, this is the primary skill which makes us superwomen. None of us feel we have enough time to complete all the tasks in a day but as moms, we have mastered the art of meeting deadlines and magically completing all the tasks despite the uncertain circumstances. Like many other moms, I too mentally scan the whole day in advance every morning and divide activities in neat slots nearly perfecting the ambition of task completion by end of the day.
  2. Planning and Priority Setting: Yes, even without a scheduler, we manage to feed, wash, clean and complete all the important tasks with no qualms. And when we’re able to mentally plan and juggle these tasks throughout the day, we’re adeptly sorting out which ones are priority to us and which ones can be postponed for later. As a trainer myself, I have done multiple sessions on planning and prioritization for the employees in my organization but lately I realized that post motherhood, I have found new effective tricks to manage gaps, assemble activities and schedule tasks.
  3. Crisis Management: How you deal with crises is a big deal in Corporate life. As a mother, we already are experts in being on top of situational awareness, adaptability and conflict management. These are the most important skills required to deal with any kind of crisis at work and having developed these can actually put us in a pedestal at the workplace.
  4. Negotiation: Any parent who has survived the baby is definitely a pro at convincing an unreasonable person to do what they want. While we get to develop this skill absolutely for free, there is no denying to the fact that it has been developed during the toughest of times. So, negotiating with stubborn people would be a cakewalk for us now.
  5. Change Management: With a baby, every day is a new experience. We cannot predict what is coming our way next but dealing with these uncertain requirements every single day makes us a stone wall ready to take any kind of hit. This is a huge plus for the Corporate employees and in the current scenario, something that should go right on the top of our CV.
  6. Problem Solving : If you have more than one child, you probably practise this every single day. Babies and children always present an endless list of problems that need solving and with multiple children, you possibly got an added flavor of conflict management as well. Starting with sleep training to fixing broken toys, our minds are programmed in such a way that we literally figure out a solution for every problem that crops up.
  7. Communication : The other day during a fun Friday at work, we were playing a game of Dumb Charades. Bam, I was a pro at it. Thanks to all the non-verbal cues I pick up every single day from my darling daughter. Dealing with a baby helps us realize that language is not a barrier. It makes us more positive, empathetic and effective in both verbal and non-verbal communication. It also brings out a great listener in us, after all listening to the endless blabbering and answering repetitive questions is a test of patience that we can pass only with experience.

Personally, I think I learnt better in my motherhood journey than all the management lessons put together during my Business school days.:D

I hope you mommies find this useful as well!

Retro dressing for Indian Wedding

Winters are almost fading out and spring is just around the corner but do you know which is my favorite season? Just like thousands of other women, I enjoy wedding season the most. No matter how cheesy that may sound, trust me we wait for the season of celebration, rejoicing and most importantly, dressing up. While most wedding parties do not particularly have a theme to follow, I would like to share a few pictures from the Retro look I created few days back.

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Makeup :

On the Face:

Make Up Forever Ultra HD Foundation in Beige

MAC Strobe Cream as highlighter

MAC Petal Power as blush

MAC Mineralise Skin Finish Natural

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On the eyes :

Urban Decay Eye Primer Potion

Huda Beauty Desert Dusk Eye Palette

Eden on the lids, Desert sand towards the inner corners

Saffron on the outer corners and on the crease

Cosmo on the lids

Angelic in the inner lids

Chambor Eyeliner in Peacock Blue on the waterline

NYX Purple eye liner under the lower lashline

Benefit They’re Real Mascara

Huda Eye Lashes in Claudia

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On the lips :

Huda Beauty Liquid Lipstick in Trophy Wife

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Lehenga : Nivedita Saboo (This lehenga with a perfect fitted corset blouse is 7 years old which I had got done for my cousin’s wedding – Very light to carry and something that I would probably never do away with. I am just so glad I still fit into it)

 

For the perfect Retro look, I obviously created a generous amount of puff and bounce in the hair. I hope you would like to recreate this one!

 

 

KEEPING PRIVATE LIFE PRIVATE!

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Keeping our personal lives private is such a difficult task. With the social media bang, it’s so flattering that people genuinely love to follow and comment on the lives we are living, the work we are doing, who we are sharing our lives with, what are our relationship moves and how we are getting to our life’s goals. We add fuel to the fire ourselves by the information we share on social media platforms and then have to face the repercussions. If you’re possibly looking for some ways to get off the grid , the next few lines might help.

Let’s talk about few points on why private life must be kept private –

  1. Low key profile – We live in a constant struggle to make our presence felt by people around us and to do the same, we try to share as much as we can. Well, I feel giving too much of yourself away in a way allows others to feel like they can define your personality and once they do, it’s hard to feel like you can ever deviate from not what you project but how they have defined you.
  1. Peer pressure – Social media has done this to us. We see the happiest of faces of people around us – a projection of life they DO NOT lead and guess what? Our brain compels us to share similar projection of ourselves to the world. We perceive it as a need to tell the world that we are happy because everybody else seems to be happy. We must not give in to such pressure because after all, it is just a part of someone’s life, not the all of it.
  2. Work life balance– Don’t let your professional life drive all over your personal life. Respect your personal relationships and schedule your personal activities so that you can dedicate specific time for personal activities. This way, you can ensure there is a clear demarcation between what the people at work can expect and what your family and friends can expect from you.
  3. Element of mystery – There is a theory around this. People who do not open up about themselves frequently are found to be more attractive. So, basically there is a constant curiosity in the minds of people to know more about the individual. So , next time you want to draw attention to yourself , do not just give away the whole of you 😀
  4. Move On – When you share your intimate details with everyone around you, it gets more difficult to move on. The other day, I heard someone share a story about how he got terminated at multiple workplaces due to unethical practices. The next I knew, the interviewer of the next job opportunity was someone who already knew of this history because he had made it public. This not just killed his confidence but also got him caught in his own trap.
  5. Opinionated world – Yes, the world will judge you, always. If you give people more opportunities to peek into your life, they will get more reasons to point their fingers at you. So, build your core group and value opinions of people who matter to you and trust me, they are the ones who will be a phone call away, not people who would be checking your social media accounts.
  6. Profession – As bloggers, we feel it is a self-imposed duty to share useful information from our personal experiences with the world. I agree, the best content comes from our own personal perspective and point of view but personally, I always draw a line. You will never see me dish out the nitty gritty details of my everyday life but just as much as required for people to understand and resonate with me.

I would love to get your comments on where do you draw the line!

PAKISTANI SUIT WITH WISHALLEY.COM

We all keep looking for that perfect Indian wear, don’t we? And Salwar suits never go out of fashion. Pakistani suits have taken center stage for most fashion shows lately and no wonder, the trend has been quite a hit. They have a regal, graceful look, with flowing silhouettes, intricate designs and artistic patterns being quite a norm. They come with a long kurta with full sleeves, straight bottoms or loose pallazos and a flowy dupatta.

Personally, I am a sucker for pastels. I always have been and when I saw this perfect combination of pastel pink and green, I couldn’t wait to lay my hands on them. The fabric is a breathable Georgette with ample golden and pink embroidery making it look no less than a designer outfit.

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To shop this look, please click on the link below –

http://www.wishalley.com/designer-light-green-and-blush-pink-georgette-suit-with-heavy-embroidery.html

I wanted to create an aesthetically pleasing ensemble and hence, paired this dress with silver and dull gold jewelry.

Details below –

Silver earrings from Tribe by Amrapali

Statement Silver Ring – Local shop in Langkawi

Dull gold Bracelet – Tanishq

You could easily pair it with a maangtika and wear it to a Sangeet or just keep it simple to a casual party. This is the beauty of a Pakistani suit – very high on comfort and wearable on all occasions.I could hold  the suit all day with absolutely no discomfort.

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WishAlley has a wide range of options to offer – from solids to prints and they swear by the statement –‘classy is always in’. You can pick from a mix of stitched and unstitched garments and with the ease of online shopping, you can actually browse through the collection and pick something for every occasion (weddings to kitty parties). The products are shipped within 3 days and you get the option of Cash on Delivery as well. High time to log on to www.wishalley.com and revamp your closet from a range of designer kaftaans,kurtis, dressy suits to add a dash of style to your persona, all at a reasonable price! They have very satisfied customers who have rated them 4.8/5!

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Learning from Homestay Hosts!

‘Atithi Devo Bhava’ is an ancient line that comes from the Hindu Scriptures which speaks about how a guest is equivalent to God. While this is practiced widely in India, we got to experience the flavor of it in our Paris Trip where we decided to stay with the host family through a popular home stay website. While the option is far more economic compared to a hotel stay, the experience is unmatched. In most occasions, you will find the hosts being extremely enthusiastic about letting out their place. They won’t behave like they are just temporary landlords who are handing over their keys to you. They are in the true spirit, cultural ambassadors proud of the place they’re from, sharing their homes and offering a unique experience in the city you have come visiting. We as a couple had a ball in not just Paris but different cities of UK and Europe staying in various apartments where we met extremely generous and fun loving hosts. We have been picking up our learning from each of the experiences.Here are few pictures from the home stay at Paris.

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Let me just share my top 7 points on being a good host and why you should consider hosting your space to guests –

  1. How to be accepting – No matter how different your cultures and languages might be, there is always something common to strike a chord with and this is a great platform to explore that. Similarly, you also learn to respect each others’ differences, either way it is a great way to improve the quality of accepting people around you.
  2. How to respect individual space – When you are letting out your house to strangers, you have to place hundred percent trust on them and it is not easy. So, that itself is a huge task to complete before you step out to become a host. As guests in our homestays, we felt completely at home particularly in the magnificent modern apartment of Paris only for the reason that the hosts gave us our space all through the day yet made sure to join us during the meals as one big family.
  3. How to be a cultural ambassador – As hosts, you can be an instant favorite if you give useful recommendations like the local pubs, the nearby restaurants, the must see places and the ones that can be skipped, the opera, the theatre and the list goes on. Funnily, it improves your knowledge of the culture of your locale.Hence, it is always wise to write to the guest beforehand and understand their interest and purpose of travel.
  4. How to exchange values – Hosting guests provides you with the opportunity to learn about a new country’s cultural and family values as much as it provides them with the same opportunity. Understanding other’s cultures teaches you to understand more about people’s personalities and attitudes towards many different aspects of life.
  5. How to make awesome food – I know it sounds funny but I have heard people say that some of the best foods they have had in their lives are with the host families they have stayed with. In our experience, the hosts would leave a generous spread of breakfast at the table every morning but they loved to cook food for supper every evening. We took this opportunity to introduce few Indian dishes to them and they absolutely loved it(minus the spices). Interestingly, one of them was Spanish, so it was a brilliant concoction of Indian, French and Spanish food that we had every evening.
  6. How to build professional network – Foreign language is a great plus for your resume if you are ready to take up an international assignment, this is a wonderful opportunity to grow your professional network .
  7. How to be passionate about simple joys of life – Hosting is possibly the most natural thing that comes to human beings, after all you must have hosted someone at some point of life – be it friends or family. Hosting a stranger can be a really rewarding experience if you leverage on this unique opportunity of making a new friend, getting to know about a new culture and possibly open a channel to your next travel to the guest’s city.

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Picture from a busy locale just outside the apartment, from fruits to flowers to pubs – everything a stone’s throw away!

The next time you think about letting out your space to a stranger, think from a positive perspective!

Happy Hosting!

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Atithi devo bhava is an ancient line from the Hindu Scriptures which speaks about how a guest is equivalent to God.While this is practised widely in India,we got to experience this amazing hospitality at Marc and Xavier's place in Paris. My top 3 learnings on being a good host comes from these gentlemen- 1.How to be accepting-No matter how different our cultures and languages might be,there is always something common to strike a chord with. 2.How to give space- When you are letting out your house to strangers,you have to place hundred percent trust on them.We felt absolutely at home in this magnificent house only because they gave us our space yet joined us for meals as one big family. 3.Being a good guide – As hosts, you can be instant friends when you give useful recommendations like the local pubs,the nearby restaurants,the opera,the theatre and the list goes on.Read full story on #vogueviolet-link in bio👆 Have you ever experienced such an amazing hospitality from strangers that you can't forget the hosts? #airbnb #homestay

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FOTD: Green Eyes with all things subtle!

I have been wanting to do this post for a really long time.I had worked on this look very diligently but I could not take the pictures in time(Thanks to the tight mommy schedule).So I recreated it again in my recent holiday at Vietnam. Honestly, I am not very comfortable with colored lens for the simple reason that I have never had to wear spectacles or contact lens ever in my life. So the feeling of having a foreign object in my eyes constantly bothers me.However, the kind of instant glamour a colored lens adds to the look just blows my mind away. So, I kind of brave the odds each time for that glamorous look 😀 Here are few pictures of the look – AirBrush_20180125162612AirBrush_20180125185222

On the face :

Bobbi Brown BB Cream in Shade Fair

Bobbi Brown Brightening Finishing Powder in Porcelain

MAC Mineralise Finish in Lightscapade – Soft Candlelight Beige in Multidimensional Shimmer

Too Faced Sweet Hearts Perfect Flush Blush – Something About Berry

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On the eyes –

Mac Burgundy Times Nine Eyeshadow palette –

Poppyseed in the inner corner

Haux on the lids

Noir in the outer corner and crease

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MAC Prolongwear Fluidline in Dip Down on the upper and lower lashline

On the eyelashes – Benefit They’re Real

Lens – Bausch and Lomb in Green

The below picture is just before I brushed off the glitter and did my final touch up!

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On the lips – NYX Soft Matte Cream in Rome

I had so much fun doing this one. I hope you do too , please share your recreations on the comments tab below or DM me on Instagram @missvogueviolet.

 

Night Market at Hanoi, Vietnam!

Night markets have a character of their own.I think we were at Hanoi on the perfect days(the weekend when the night markets run through the streets of Old Quarters) to have got this opportunity to get an authentic glimpse of the very colorful and vibrant market.The market stretches from Hang Dao street to Dong Xuan Market filled with seemingly endless line of stalls.From souvenirs to clothes to local craft, I just couldn’t get enough of it. The colors and lively atmosphere were a treat to the eyes. I captured some of the sights that really impressed me, no wonder I want to go back too soon 🙂IMG_0525IMG_0526IMG_0528IMG_0529IMG_0535 (1)IMG_0540 (3)IMG_0546 (1)IMG_0547IMG_0548IMG_0550IMG_0551

 

If you ever plan a visit to Vietnam, do not miss the night markets!Just walking by the street would lift your spirits. Happy travelling!

HOMESICK DURING VACATION?

So, I am writing this post in the middle of a holiday as I think of my darling little V who is having a ball of time back home. Generally, home is far from the top of my mind when I travel to a new place. I am always busy exploring and soaking in the experience yet I always look forward to going back when it is time to return.

A quote that I relate to –

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 I love coming home after being away. Do you feel the same way? Read on to find out 7 reason why –

  1. Family: Whatever said and done, there is no substitute to the warmth of a family and if you got fur babies, I know you just can’t wait to get back home and cuddle up.
  2. Comfort: I know all you fashionistas love to wear the best of clothes and shoot the best of pictures in vacations, but hey, secretly we all want to go back to our pajamas and slump in the couch, don’t we?
  3. Back on track: Yes, holidays are the time when all your new year resolutions, diet and workout goals go for a toss. So, coming back to home gets you back on track with clean eating and increased focus on health.
  4. Creativity: Sometimes you get so many fresh ideas in a holiday that you can’t wait for the surge of creativity to step out of you and implement them in your lives.
  5. Familiarity: When you are in a different country, after a certain period of time, you practically long to communicate in your own language, eat your home cooked food and feel your usual neighborhood.
  6. Routine: Yes, you went on a holiday to escape the usual but people like me long to get back to routine after a few days. A routine just makes life easy, you know exactly what you’re going to do next.
  7. Sleep: After an activity packed vacation and before you start going back to work, you would want to get some good sleep(and what better than your own bed). You can catch up on all the episodes loss of your favorite series. So, all you GOT fans, please don’t plan a vacation when Season 8 is aired!

Don’t get me wrong, I love vacations as much as you do but I also really do LOVE coming back home 🙂

 

Bloggers Liebster Award

If you are a blogger, you probably already know about the Liebster award. For all of my readers who haven’t heard of it,  it is a recognition by fellow bloggers to someone who is new to the blogging community. It feels great to be recognized by someone of your own and my heartfelt thanks to Joyce Osiange from www.thecozyme.com for nominating me for the award.

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Joyce asked me a few questions that helped me introspect further on my blogging journey. Read on to find out my responses –

  1. What drove you to blogging and what are the challenges you are facing as a blogger? How do you tackle them?

I have had a passion for writing since I was very young. As a teenager, I was very secretive about my writings and poetry. I would literally hide my diary and never let anyone touch it. Gradually, with age and more exposure to the web, I realized that there are so many like-minded people around who share the same passion and that it is best to share and learn from others. The biggest challenge I face as a blogger is to manage time. As a new mom and a full time working professional, sparing a slot for writing is a tough task for me. I’m trying to tackle it by scheduling my posts in advance and planning my day more effectively.

  1. Do you blog fulltime?

No, blogging is my hobby. I am a fulltime HR professional.

  1. Where is your next travel destination?

Vietnam – Yay!!

  1. What is the most extreme thing you have done?

Scuba Diving – I have been scared of water all my life yet mustered the courage to dive in the waters of Andamans, India,

  1. When you have a writer’s block what do you do to work it out?

Thankfully I have not been hit with the condition yet. I write on different genres, ranging from beauty to fitness and motherhood. Hence, I have enough and more to explore and share in the coming years.

  1. What advice will you give to those who want to start blogging?

Follow your passion. If it really interests you, go for it and the world will follow you.

  1. Do you interact with your reader?

I love to interact with my readers because they are my biggest source of feedback and constructive criticism.

  1. Name one thing that inspires you daily.

The fact that my hands are always full. I feel I can deliver better under pressure and when I am pressed for time, I am more motivated to deliver.

  1. If you had to give an advice to thecozyme.com what will it be?

I love the versatility of your writings and your motivation posts are really inspiring. keep up the good work.

  1. Are you a member of any blog forum/group? How does it benefit you?

I am a member of few. Still trying trying to figure out my way through.

So, the deal is we nominate budding bloggers from the community and ask 10 questions which would help the world know them better.

Please note the rules before listing the nominations –

  1. Thank the person who nominated you through your social media platform by sharing their blog post.
  2. Write a blog post about Liebster Award and make sure to add the logo.
  3. Answer the questions asked by the blogger who nominated you.
  4. Nominate 5-10 bloggers whose blogs are of interest to you.
  5. List the rules in the Liebster Award blog post.
  6. Inform the nominees about their nomination for them to continue the chain of nominating other bloggers.

So, I nominate the following

  1. twomouthsfull.com
  2. fatimas.usana.com
  3. girlknowswhat.wordpress.com
  4. heelsdigest.com
  5. monicaepure.tumblr.com
  6. openroadbrokencompass.com
  7. adoremyskin.blog/
  8. suburbansocialite.com
  9. themintchipmama.wordpress.com
  10. outsidelivingtravel.org/

And my questions to them are –

  1. Describe yourself in three words.
  2. How long have you been blogging and what has kept you going?
  3. How did you choose your blogging niche?
  4. What is your biggest passion in life? Does your blog speak about your passion?
  5. What is your most prized possession?
  6. What is your favorite quote and by whom?
  7. What is your favorite post on your blog and why? (Please provide link)
  8. What is your favorite post on my blog and why? (Please provide link)
  9. What is the single most important characteristic of a person that you appreciate the most?
  10. What is your advice to the new bloggers?

Please don’t forget to click on subscribe and follow on the social media handles.Happy blogging!

 

Maternity and nursing style with Momzjoy.com!

Florals have been my favorite always. They bring in the feel of spring even on the gloomiest of the seasons. After living in neutrals all winter, I have been craving for some color and what better than this gorgeous blue with tiny tangerine flowers (just what would suit this kind of sunny winter brunch).

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This lovely maxi dress from www.momzjoy.com is ideal for a nursing mother (as it comes with concealed zips) or a mom-to-be who can use the detachable belt to flaunt that cute bump in style. The material is very soft crepe which lets your skin breathe in ease (just what you need at this time). Having said that, I think it is a wonderful maxi dress with side slits which can be worn even after pregnancy giving you a tall, elegant and confident look. Here are few more pictures of the look –

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Being a working mom myself, I know this would have been my top pick for dressing to work during maternity. I absolutely love the fluted sleeves and the linen fabric which gives a corporate touch to it. Extremely comfortable fit and front buttons make it ideal for a nursing mother. Generally, vertical stripes are to be avoided during pregnancy but the fall and fit of this dress makes you look effortlessly stylish!

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Momzjoy.com has a range of innovative designs that can be used during and after pregnancy. Go check out their collection at www.momzjoy.com and let me know in the comments section on how you style yourself with confidence!

Office Makeup Look: Brown and Burgundy!

Like every other makeup enthusiast, I too buy a lot of makeup products impulsively and then dump them away one fine day only to realize they have gone beyond their expiry dates. Lately, I have been consciously keeping a watch on what products I use more often and the findings are no surprises. They are the ones I use for my daily makeup to work. This is a challenge which many women face while selecting the right makeup for a corporate environment. You don’t want to overdo it yet want to flaunt a fresh natural face. There’s so much to learn about such kind of no makeup –  makeup that it can be overwhelming. My simple war cry is “Less is more”!Here’s a look which is very easy to recreate and perfect for the workplace –

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I chose to keep the face clean – No blush, highlighter or contouring!

Products used

On the Face –

  1. Bobbi Brown BB Cream in Shade Fair
  2. MAC Mineralise Skin Finish in Light Plus

On the Lips –

MAC Taupe

On the Eyes –

1.MAC Burgundy Times Nine

PoppySeed on the Eyelid

HoneyLust in the inner corner

Sketch on the crease and outer corners

2.Eye Liner – MAC Fluidline in Rich Ground

3.Eye Lashes – Benefit ‘They’re Real’

4. Brows – Benefit KABrow

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Sweater and Dhoti Swag!

I know it’s the season of sweaters and you still don’t want to let go of your swag. Tired of the “Beta, sweater pehno” instructions? So am I but it’s the month of January and the temperatures have been dropping further. I cannot do without my layers , yet cannot do away with my comfortable pants. So,last weekend for a small lunch gathering I decided to pick my dhoti pants and kept wondering what I can pair it with; without letting go of the quirk element. I googled quite a bit on a sweater/sweatshirt and dhoti combination and found nothing to my liking . So, I decided to create a look of my own with my all time favorite fit of Tommy Hilfiger pullover. All those who have seen my post on Eye Makeup:Long wings and pixie dust!  This makeup look was done with this red and black outfit!

 

The aviators and me are inseparable. The fact that they go well with anything and everything that I wear makes me really happy!

I tucked it in because I liked to show the dhoti in its full glory 😀 It looks casual and fun when you leave it out as well.

Time for an indoor picture after the sunny shoot on a cold day!

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Outfit Details-

Sweater – Tommy Hilfiger

Dhoti Pants – Aakriti

Jooti – Local shop at Udaipur

 

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LEAP OF FAITH

The other day I was looking at a picture of me and V taken a few months back. It made me wonder how fast she is growing, adapting to the environment around her so effortlessly and learning new things every single day. Learning seems so easy to her now and little does she know that unlearning all of these things will get difficult with age. Today ,when I look at myself , I wonder when was the last time I accepted a change without questioning or started something new,embracing a new beginning whole heartedly. Sometimes, you just need to take a leap of faith to experience the magic of a new beginning.

Here are 7 reasons why you must take the “Leap of faith “ –

  • Listen to your inner voice : Sometimes, we just need to sense our gut instinct and follow it because often it is the inner voice which leads you to the right path instead of the external advice that you have been seeking all along.
  • Regret and no regret : If you take up this lifetime opportunity, you will not regret it later. At the same time, for all the practical reasons you might realize later that you have made a wrong choice. Take a leap of faith for the choice that you truly want, so you will not feel the pinch of regret later. Sometimes the safer route is not always the best because once a decision is set in motion, it is likely to gain more momentum. I have seen infeasible dreams turning into reality merely through grit and determination.
  • Overcome the fear of unknown: There’s always an element of fear for what you can’t see and there’s always an element of excitement and a sense of desire to chase the unknown, to follow your passion. So, make your choice, let the passion overshadow the fear!
  • Celebrate the past and present: The pursuit to your passion will never be lucid until you pave your way yourself. Be grateful for your past , present and utilize it to carve your future. Gather your experience and pick the universe’s clues to take that leap.
  • Draw inspiration :Look around for people who follow the same passion. Do you want to move to a bigger city leaving behind your settled household for a dream job? How many people in your circle have done anything close to that, how many have been successful with it?
  • Money is not an excuse : I don’t want to sound like those zillion reminders you get on your social media on how you should drop everything and go travel the world. Money is very very important but don’t let money be your excuse. Plan your savings, take time to do it and if you really want to move and take advantage of this new experience, you’ll find a way to make it work.
  • It doesn’t work out : Come back and start again. You might lose time, but the gain is immense in terms of the experience. You learn new things from new people, new challenges, new places and most importantly the new ‘you’. The risk is well worth the reward.

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Eye Makeup:Long wings and pixie dust!

“With brave wings, she flies”

 

I have been obsessed with dramatic eyes off late yet like most others, always a little shy to do a dramatic eye makeup and step out during the day, So, today I tried something very wearable yet a look that gives most attention to the eyes. So, let me show you few pictures which you can easily recreate with similar products that I am going to show you at the end – 20180107_181235

On the eyes:

  • DIORSHOW Fusion Mono in Shade 661 Meteore on the eye lids(One of my all time favorites, it will never let you go over the board no matter how much you apply)
  • Chambor Smokey eyes Intense Kohl on the water line
  • Benefit They’re Real Push up Liner in Black on the lash line
  • Benefit They’re Real Mascara on the eye lashes
  • Benefit Ka Brow on the eyes brows

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On the Face – 

  • Forest Essentials Soundarya Radiance Cream(Free samples from nykaa)
  • Benefit Dandelion Blush (from the travel packs)

I did not use any highlighter or powder to keep the look light and dewy.

On the lips:

  • NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream in the shade Amsterdam

Picture of the products used below (Just look at the pigmented DIORSHOW Fusion Mono, just awesome)

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I would love to see your recreations using the same products or their dupes 🙂

Extroverted Introvert’s Guide

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Like every other corporate employee, the thought of Friday evening delights me. This Friday is no exception. The only difference is I am torn between wanting to go party and staying home spending some “lone time”. Although after Little Miss V arrived in our lives, there is no such lone time that exists in the schedule yet the thought of curling up inside the blanket in my pajamas, reading a book , staring at the ceiling and doing nothing(after she sleeps) kind of comforts me. Well, I cannot say that I am an outright introvert person because I might lose my job if I say that. After all, I am a Human Resources Professional and it’s my responsibility to socialize with human beings and manage them professionally. So, I found a term for myself which justifies the imbalance between being gregarious and unusually quiet – extroverted introvert. Now, let me explain this with 7 typical characteristics of an extroverted introverts –

  1. They are not the most talkative in the group but can be great conversationalists if interested in the conversation.
  2. Love to be alone yet feel lonely.
  3. Seek attention yet want to go hide in a shell when they get it.
  4. Operate on “ON/OFF” mode – Appear very sociable when out in groups yet rush home to recharge in solitude.
  5. They have 1112 friends on social media yet 2 they can actually depend on. They can make friends easily but find it difficult to maintain friendships.
  6. They crave meaningful conversations and are not interested in small talk.
  7. Others perceive them as extroverts while they are constantly conversing in their head like introverts.

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No, we are not schizophrenic !!!We are just people constantly chasing the company of solitude in the midst of crowd. If you identify yourself with these characteristics, feel free to subscribe on my blog and follow on Instagram @missvogueviolet to view more such posts.

 

SAY “YES” TO “NO”

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All my life, I have been constantly working on this area of “Saying NO tactfully” yet I have not mastered the same. As simple as it may sound, saying “NO” is probably one of the hardest things to say to people we deal with in our daily lives. When I started out in my HR career, I realized I am getting into a habit of saying “Yes”, often in haste which gives me absolutely no time to evaluate, align or calibrate the options I get. Slowly, I tried to work on it and a lot of introspection is what it took to arrive at the 7 reasons where I found a solution in “NO” as an answer.

  1. The clichéd reason: Be yourself – Yes, everyone on the internet and in your real world has already told this to you. It is the single most important reason why you should learn to say “NO” because nothing deserves more attention than your priorities and personal interests. Do not lose yourself in the battle to win hearts.
  2. Balance: The universe demands a balance, so does your mind and body. It is impossible to strike a balance if you have your hands full at all points of time. So, you must know what to accept and what to clearly reject in order to lead a less stressful life.
  3. Being assertive : It is a myth that saying “YES” to everything makes you a popular person, a team player or a go getter. Often, employees take all instructions from the manager in order to project themselves as superheroes who can “do it all”. Well, as Indira Nooyi said “you can’t have it all” and you should not strive to have it all as well. God forbid, you might even be perceived as a submissive person and this may lead to other free riders exploiting you for their own benefit.
  4. Command respect: Respect is a virtue which cannot be demanded. A strong personality is one who has the cognizance of his strengths and areas of development. He/she knows which task will help him leverage his strength and which one will help him overcome his weakness. The world respects such people and they are definitely not the ones who pick everything that comes their way.
  5. Set your boundaries: When you have your priorities right, you have fewer unwanted intrusions and even fewer distractions. Setting boundaries by saying “No” makes your intentions firmer and is one of the most important skills required for personal and professional growth. When you are saying “No” to things that do not interest you, you are creating a space for things to say “Yes” to.
  6. Deal with confrontation: Most people prefer not to say “No” to avoid an unnecessary conflict. They feel the relationship might stagger with a negative answer. Believe me, dealing with confrontation shapes you more as a person because a conflict helps you improve your resolution seeking skills. So, muster the courage and explore seeking solutions by confronting the people and issues you have been hiding from.
  7. The truth : Saying “no” shows that you won’t succumb to pressure and you abide by the truth. While it might make you feel vulnerable, once you make it a habit it actually helps you evolve into a more liberated and stronger personality.